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    Be Humble. Sit Down. Let’s Bumble.

    Hope y’all had a great weekend!  This post is a little different than what I usually write.  I’m sure y’all have seen some write about their love stories, so I’m here today to share my own not quite yet love story with y’all.  I hope that whether you’re single, dating, married, and/or never used a dating app before that you can still relate or know someone who can.  My family & friends who are not currently living the single life always find the dating world interesting these days, especially when it comes to dating apps.  SO I figured what the hay?  I’ll share my experiences, trials & tribulations, and how it all got me to where I am now, which is finally in a great spot, b-tee-dubs.

    Before you continue reading, here’s some quick vocab for ya:

    Hinge: Becoming more of a thing.  No swiping left or right – more like your typical Instagram-type scroll.  It is a little more intense these days than Bumble.  You can pick questions to answer and then you like each other’s photos/comments and that’s how you connect.

    Bumble: A left or right swipe.  Left is ‘later skater’ and right is ‘hey boy hey’.  Biggest difference between Bumble & Hinge is that on Bumble – the ladies have to talk first.  So if you get a match, it’s up to the girl to make the first move!

    Since my post college days in Nashville (circa 2012-2013), I have been on and off dating apps.  Tinder (which was short lived) because idk about y’all, but it was just one that didn’t work for me.  I remember some of my friends and I went on a trip to this lake in Kentucky and on the way there I pulled up Tinder to just show them what it was about, etc. and it knew the location of the guys as we were driving through different towns – this FREAKED me out.  I was like okay no.  I don’t want to know where ol’ Kev lives and I sure as heck don’t want him to know where I am.  Immediately I shut down that account, deleted the app, had a little panic sesh, and then I was okay.  Even though now, on Bumble, it tells you an estimated mileage location of the other person, idk why but now it doesn’t freak me out QUITE as much, but I guess it was just because it was SO foreign to me at first that people knew my whereabouts and now that it’s more common, I guess I’m more okay with it?  I’ll get back to y’all with my official verdict.

    Okay so fast forward a few months and this is when I think I discovered Hinge.  I honestly can’t remember if I got on Hinge or Bumble first, but that’s really a mute point for now.  I don’t think I went on one dating app date while I lived in Nashville; however that all changed when I moved to Charlotte.  I’m thinking, okay this is going to be great!  New city, new people, yes.  Well that was the case to some extent.  Just like anything else in life there will always be good & bad.  At first, I would dreaddddd going on first dates.  Like I would want to cancel and honestly, my first few, I did.  I let my anxiety get the best out of me and I chickened out.  BUT like another lesson we all know is that practice makes perfect.  Am I perfect at dating now 4 years later?  Heck no.  I don’t think you can perfect dating unless you are like living the most ballin’ bach life on earth, but I would say the dates have gotten easier in the sense that I actually go through with most of them.

    So turns out, going on a couple dates can lead to dating, which is typically the goal for dating apps, hence their description; however, not all guys seem to see them that way, which is fine.  Like YDY, but I personally don’t utilize the apps to just shoot the ish.  I don’t have time for that and like Demi Lovato says, Sorry I’m Not Sorry.  Some you end up dating and maybe wish you wouldn’t have, but personally, these bad seeds were all lessons to me and helped to get me where I am today.  Let me give y’all a couple examples/insight into my dating experiences from dating apps:

    Some One Hit Wonders

    Baby you can drive my car.  Oh.  You want me to drive to come pick you up on our first date?  Okay.  No.

    Turn down for what.  When I say I have an early morning, but I’ll go out for A drink.  I end up having two in the time that you end up having five.  Yikes.

    I’ve waited so long to hear you say that, but if I’m going to be a successful personal stylist by the time I’m 30, I need someone who isn’t such a complete bonehead.  When there is just zero follow through, you’ll start to channel your inner Reese.

    I know it may sound like I’m this bitter single woman, but I really am not.  Honestly for the first time, I think ever, I am okay with my relationship status.  I wanted to share my story to show you that just because you may feel alone doesn’t mean that you are.  If you are out there and you’re single & in your mid to upper 20s or really any age, I am here to tell you that just because you are single, it’s not the end of the world.  A relationship status doesn’t define you.  You define yourself.  And just like I don’t want to waste my time on guys like the ones I mentioned above, you don’t have to either.  I finally feel like I am at a place in my life where things make sense.  I know that sounds so Tom Hanks & Meg Ryan-type-movieish, but it’s how I feel.  I feel like I’m doing what I’m supposed to be doing and the settling down life will come when it’s supposed to.  Having this peace of mind feels so great.  Does this mean that I am closed off to dating and/or dating apps?  No.  I still make time to go on dates when I want.  I mean that would just be crazy if I didn’t.  I just have my priorities in line (most days, ha), but we all need a break sometimes from the hustling work day-to-day life so it is honestly nice to be wined & dined from time to time.

    Y’all would probably LOL at some of the guys’ profiles on these dating apps.  I’m not trying to be mean and make fun, I’m sure some look at mine and are like what’s going on with this chick?  BUT.  Some profiles are GOLD and others you’re like OKAY who are you?  What’s happening?  So with that I have some advice for the guys – if any are reading – if not, ladies feel free to share some pointers with the males in your family (especially if they using dating apps).  

    ONE – Why do you put girls in your pictures??  Your mom or precious grandmother is one thing.  That is cute and sweet.  But Crop Top Casey is not making your odds that great with me.

    TWO – Cut it out with the selfie pics.  One is fine.  I will not ‘left’ you with one.  We all do it, I get it, but more than one is just..SMH.  Be more original guys.

    THREE – What’s with the group pics?  We don’t know which one you are!

    FOUR – Enough with the gym pictures.  I’m not your competition.

    FIVE – Cute kids and/or dogs in your pic?  Need to know if they’re yours.

    Ladies – it’s your turn – here is my advice to you if you are new to the dating app world and/or currently in it, but need a little inspo.

    ONE – You never know until you try.  If you’re nervous about putting yourself out there.  Don’t be.  You deserve to have some fun and be wined & dined.

    TWO – Trust your gut.  If a guy is giving you a weird feeling or saying things that make you feel uncomfortable, especially before y’all even go out, you don’t HAVE to go out with him.  You’ve been on the app, there are plenty more swipes in the beehive.

    THREE – Be who you are.  Even if you really like someone and you want them to like you back just as much, at the end of the day you have to ask yourself – is this who I am and is this someone I could end up with?  If your answers are no then you know what to do.

    FOUR – Take NWA’s advice & Express Yourself while also respecting yourself. 

    I’ll end on this note – the takeaway from this post today shouldn’t be ‘don’t ever try dating apps.’  The takeaways should be A – if you are single and in your upper twenties (or any age really) you are okay.  Don’t panic!  Just do you for a while and go after what you want.  B – give dating apps a try if you’ve been thinking about trying one or taking one serious – just do it!

    I hope y’all enjoyed today’s post since it is a little out of the ordinary compared to my typical posts.  Leave a comment below and let me know what y’all think AND if you’ve had any interested dating app experiences, tell me about them!

    Have a great & safe Monday!

     

    Xo,

    Erika

     

    Fall Faves

    The fall season has been officially on us for a couple weeks, but it’s finally starting to feel like fall and this makes me V happy!  As y’all know, I recently moved into a new place and I am loving it!  I put lights up on my back patio and tossed some pumpkins out there and BAM instant fall happiness.  Today I want to share with y’all some of my favorite fall things – yes some are so #basic, but hey, I love what I love.

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    Fall Favorites:

    • Funky sized pumpkins – orange ones & white ones

    • Leaves changing colors

    • Cafe lights on a patio

    • Red wine on a chilly night out on the cafe-lit patio

    • Football, duh

    • Fall Candles

    • Hot Apple Cider

    • OMG, Stella Cidre – SO good.  A MUST-try, for real tho’.

    • Caramel Apples

    • Flannel shirts & blankets

    • Light Blue skies with orangeish-yellow leaves

    • Fall FASHION – duh, especially the perfect sweater!

    • Fall Nail Polish (my current fave is OPI’s ‘OPI Red’ – not really dark, but hey it’s a fall nail color!)

    • Trips to the mountains and the beach, especially mid-Oct

    • You’ve Got Mail

    • Sat & Sun mornings with coffee in the cutest mug

    • Cozy loungewear/PJs

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    So those are my fall favorites, just to name a few, ha I have a LOT.  Obviously fall is my favorite season, I mean I may have mentioned that a time or two to y’all, haha!  PS – I am loving this OTS sweater from Petal Boutique.  It is so thick & rather cozy for it to be OTS.  It would also look cute partly tucked in a leather or suede skirt or with a darker pair of denim jeans and some booties.  Oh girl, you be stylin’.

    What are some of y’alls fall favorites?!  Do you love any of the same ones I do?!  Share in the comments below!

    Hope y’all have a great Friday!!

    Xo,

    Erika

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    Let’s Take a Moment..

    Hello Followers of TayloringStyle –

    If you’ve been following me for a while, you know that I do not talk politics a ton and I like to keep on the positive side instead of negative, but when something is important and effects us all, I certainly don’t want to ignore it.  So with that being said, I want to put my thoughts & love out there to all of the victims of the awful event in Las Vegas.  Reading all of the headlines, stories, and tweets seriously brings tears to my eyes.  And that’s my eyes.  Fortunately, I am not directly effected by this, but unfortunately so many were.  I cannot imagine how I’d feel if someone with so much hate in their heart actually went after those that I loved.  Why?  Why does this happen?  I saw one picture of a victim who was killed and he was in the military and the picture was of he and his dog.  I lost it.  His sweet dog, family, and friends never get to see him again because of someone being angry.  Unbelievable. 1 person. 16 riffles in his room.  Are you kidding me?  Yea.  Something needs to be done & way sooner than later.

    It doesn’t even feel right to jump from that start to tell you how to wear fall yellows y’all.  I’m sorry, but I feel heartless if I do that.  I don’t want to be dramatic, I want to be respectful.  So I am at least putting on the fall yellow how-to until tomorrow.  I hope you can understand.

    I love you all & am very grateful for each of you.  Let’s all just be kind.  Just be kind even to those who may not deserve kindness.  Be kind for no reason.  Idk, this idea gives me hope.  I hope it gives you hope too because that’s what we all need.  Just some love, kindness, and hope.

    Again, thinking of all those effected.

    Much, much love.

     

    Xo,

    Erika

     

    Taylor Your Closet

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    Since I was a young girl, I have loved fashion.  Putting outfits together, shopping, & organizing my closet were (and still are) my jams.  I soon realized that not only do I love doing all of the above for myself, but I also love doing it for others.  Over the years my family and friends have come to me for advice when it comes to their outfit selections.  Some have asked just about day-to-day looks while others have seeked advice on what to wear for a night out, for a special occasion, and even what to pack for certain trips.  I used to tell my parents all the time that I wish there was a way for me to make a living out of shopping & putting looks together for other people because I enjoy it so much. 

    Over the last two years, I’ve been focused on growing my blog & building my brand.  I put together looks with pieces that are versatile, affordable, and make me personally feel great.  In addition to these looks that I personally love, I offer other similar suggestions to my readers that they can put together depending on their particular style and/or events that they may have coming up in their own lives.  With that being said, I’ve given a lot of thought to providing my readers an exclusive chance to seek my advice on all things fashion, beauty, & lifestyle on a deeper level. 

    Here’s what I mean: have you ever been shopping and want a second opinion on what you’re trying on?  You text & send Snaps to your family and friends and either they’re busy or don’t have their phone on them so you are either stuck with something that you don’t absolutely love or you regret not buying what you knew in your heart you loved and made you feel like the confident & beautiful woman that you are.  As women, we do this (men, I’m sorry I don’t really have total insight on you yet with this), we tend to over-analyze.  From relationships to food to shoes, purses, dessert, you name it.  Wouldn’t you want one less thing to over-analyze?  If your answer is yes, then I have a solution for you!  I want to offer my services to be your personal stylist.  I want to inspire women to look and feel their best because let’s face it, when you know you look fierce you are ready to take on your day.  I don’t know about y’all, but I think we could use more of this feel good, do good kind of movement.  I want to help you pick out your looks for business trips, job interviews, dates, vacations, meeting your boyfriend’s parents, your honeymoon, whatever the occasion so that you feel and look your best.

    Ideally the first place to start would be your closet.  Let’s see what fresh looks we can come up with using what you already own.  Then if you are looking for some new staple pieces, we can arrange a shopping date either in person (depending on location) or virtually via FaceTime, Skype, or Google Hangouts.  From there, when you are shopping out on your own, I can be your go-to person that you can text, Snapchat, or DM on Instagram to tell you “yes, that looks great” or “don’t you already have something similar? I would shoot for something like (insert circumstantial piece of clothing) to go with (insert piece of clothing).  Although family and friends are obviously great and hey they may know fashion too, but they get busy and can’t always give you an answer right away.  That’s where I come in for you.

    If you are looking to up your closet game, make your shopping experiences more enjoyable, feel more confident about how great you look, and fully soak up the opportunities that life is presenting to you without worrying about what you’re wearing, then don’t put this off another day.  Let’s start working together to make you your best accessory!  Let’s Taylor Your Closet! 

    Here’s how to get started:

    1 – Head over to the Taylor Your Closet page under “Services” to get more info on how we can work together + pricing.

    2 – Let me know exactly what you’re looking for by filling out this form (this form is also on the Taylor Your Closet page).

    3 – You will receive an email from me to confirm your session & scheduled date/time!

     

    Xo,

    Erika

    Flare Jeans & Wrap Tops

    How was everyone’s weekend?!  Mine was spent mostly unpacking & getting settled in my new place.  I am so thankful for all of y’alls messages & love throughout the weekend about my new job and new place – seriously means the world to me!

    On a complete side note, did y’all see that Netflix is taking Friday Night Lights away from us?!  I mean come on Netflix.  This is your bread & butter, Netflix.  AND Love Actually??  The HECK!?  Y’all.  I’m not happy about it.

    Anyways, So this Monday kicks off my second week in my new job!  I am learning a lot already in this new Social Media & Marketing Coordinator role and I can’t wait to see what else it brings along.

    If y’all follow me on IG, you’ve seen this look below on two of my posts.  I love, love, loveeee these flare jeans.  They can be a little more dressed up with a top like I’m wearing below, but I also cannot wait to wear them with a basic v-neck and blazer.

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    These jeans seriously fit like a glove and are SO comfy!  I think I’ve told y’all this before, but the ‘regular’ actually fits me better than the ‘short’, even though I am 5’2″!  This wrap top is from Zara, but I have also linked some ones below.

    This week I would love to get these last two boxes unpacked and do some more searching for a love seat, island, and rug for my place!  I also can’t wait to try out the gym here, it is awesome!  Later this week I’ve got an event at Kendra Scott and part of the proceeds are going to help out the people who were effected by Hurricanes Harvey & Irma.  Stay tuned on IG & Snap this week and ‘ll be updating y’all on everything!

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    What all do y’all have going on this week?!  Anything exciting?  Leave your comments below!

    Let’s make this week a great one y’all!

     

    Xo,

    Erika

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